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fat-friendly cities and towns?
thirtiesgirl wrote in fatshionista
Hi fats. I come to you with a question. Based on your experiences, what places, cities, towns do you consider fat-friendly?
By "fat-friendly," I mean the town or city has a fat community with some knowledge of and experience with fat acceptance and health at every size; the dating scene is generally good for fats; and there's an overall friendliness and not much negativity towards fats from people of every size, gender and ethnicity. ...Or am I asking for a tall order, here?

I've lived all my life in Southern California, growing up in a touristy beach community, where beach bunny bodies were the norm. I've lived in Los Angeles for the past 12 years, where I moved to ostensibly start a new life that included a romantic partner, good friends, a job I loved and a neighborhood I was fond of. I've managed to find a few of those things in LA, but it's been a real struggle. For the past several years, I've been considering finding a new place to call home. I'm just not sure where that might be, so I'm asking for your knowledge and experiences to help develop my search.

I should mention a few things: I don't do well with cold winter weather when it drops below 40 degrees farenheit (meaning, very little to no snow). If I could handle snow and cold, windy temps, Chicago would be my go-to city. A fat friend of mine from LA moved to Chicago several years ago and couldn't say enough about the cute men who frequently hit on her and the general attitude difference she experienced, in comparison to LA. But sadly, I have circulation issues, so temps below 40 degrees in winter are not good for me.

I'm also not good with extreme heat or humidity; extreme to me meaning any temps over 105 degrees farenheit. I lived for several years in the San Fernando Valley where it can get as hot as 108 degrees in summer, which is a wee bit too hot for me, but just barely manageable. Thank goodness for A/C.

Places I've considered living include Portland, OR; Austin, TX; and Sacramento, CA. Portland is now off the list because it's apparently extremely difficult to find jobs in education there, especially if you're moving from out of state. I work in education, so that's not good for me. Sacramento's still on my list as a potential city for me to check out if I want to stay in California, but I know next to nothing about it. Same with Austin, aside from the great music scene there.

So now that I've given you my list of nearly impossible to meet standards (big surprise), what do you say? What cities and towns do you consider fat-friendly?

Thanks for reading.

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Well, Austin isn't actually vetoed for traffic. At the moment, it's on the top of my list of places to consider. After visiting Portland a few years ago with a friend, I fell in love with it and would love to be able to make a home there. I work in education and unfortunately, it's extremely hard to get a job working for the school districts in Portland, especially if you're coming from out of state. I've had several educator friends move up there and try to make a life for themselves, but couldn't find a teaching job there even after a year. So Portland is, sadly, off the list for me. Albuquerque is on my list of places to check out...but may soon fall off the list if I have to keep using the damn spell check every time I try to type the name.

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It's terrible getting a job in Portland in general right now, but if you all are really set on moving here, check with other school districts in the immediate area. Anywhere within an hour or two wouldn't be too bad if you really just wanted to get to the Portland area in general.

austin is great! lots of sunshine, good roads, good food. just don't live near the river -- it floods.

Ok, so my mom was right in one aspect: Austin *does* flood...but only near the river. I have to chuckle about this. Every time I talk to my mom about moving somewhere else, she instantly starts bringing up the negative aspects of the city, rather than being supportive, as if that's going to stop me from going. When I first told her I was moving to LA, all she talked about was the crime. The first words out of her mouth were, "you'll get raped and robbed within a year." Thanks, mom. When I've mentioned possibly moving to Austin, she equates it with *all* cities in the south and says, "you'll be flooded out within a year!" as if the whole city gets completely submerged under water. My friend Stephanie from high school lived in Austin for 6 years and never once got flooded out. But my mom is a fatalist at heart and can't help seeing the negative in everything.

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