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fat-friendly cities and towns?
thirtiesgirl wrote in fatshionista
Hi fats. I come to you with a question. Based on your experiences, what places, cities, towns do you consider fat-friendly?
By "fat-friendly," I mean the town or city has a fat community with some knowledge of and experience with fat acceptance and health at every size; the dating scene is generally good for fats; and there's an overall friendliness and not much negativity towards fats from people of every size, gender and ethnicity. ...Or am I asking for a tall order, here?

I've lived all my life in Southern California, growing up in a touristy beach community, where beach bunny bodies were the norm. I've lived in Los Angeles for the past 12 years, where I moved to ostensibly start a new life that included a romantic partner, good friends, a job I loved and a neighborhood I was fond of. I've managed to find a few of those things in LA, but it's been a real struggle. For the past several years, I've been considering finding a new place to call home. I'm just not sure where that might be, so I'm asking for your knowledge and experiences to help develop my search.

I should mention a few things: I don't do well with cold winter weather when it drops below 40 degrees farenheit (meaning, very little to no snow). If I could handle snow and cold, windy temps, Chicago would be my go-to city. A fat friend of mine from LA moved to Chicago several years ago and couldn't say enough about the cute men who frequently hit on her and the general attitude difference she experienced, in comparison to LA. But sadly, I have circulation issues, so temps below 40 degrees in winter are not good for me.

I'm also not good with extreme heat or humidity; extreme to me meaning any temps over 105 degrees farenheit. I lived for several years in the San Fernando Valley where it can get as hot as 108 degrees in summer, which is a wee bit too hot for me, but just barely manageable. Thank goodness for A/C.

Places I've considered living include Portland, OR; Austin, TX; and Sacramento, CA. Portland is now off the list because it's apparently extremely difficult to find jobs in education there, especially if you're moving from out of state. I work in education, so that's not good for me. Sacramento's still on my list as a potential city for me to check out if I want to stay in California, but I know next to nothing about it. Same with Austin, aside from the great music scene there.

So now that I've given you my list of nearly impossible to meet standards (big surprise), what do you say? What cities and towns do you consider fat-friendly?

Thanks for reading.


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I have a young friend in her 20s who grew up there and, generally, loves it. She and I share the same interests in music and culture, so hearing about all her fun experiences, hanging out with her friends in Minneapolis made me think it's a great place to be. ...If only I could handle the cold. Sadly, I know from experience that I can't, otherwise I'd definitely check it out.

This is kind of my logic when I consider moving somewhere warmer but less fat friendly:

Say you're harassed about your size once every three weeks living elsewhere. It ruins your day. That averages out to, what, about 15 or so days a year spent feeling crappy about yourself. I'd say we probably have about 15 days a year where it's just stupid cold, so in that way they kind of balance each other out. And really, I'd still rather be physically cold than in an emotionally cold environment.

Or maybe I just feel this way having lived in Minnesota my entire life. ;)

I hear you. I just really can't take the cold. I have circulation issues that prevent me from living anywhere that drops below 40 degrees farenheit in winter. I've visited places where it stays about that cold in winter and it wasn't good for me. My joints ache, especially my hands, and they turn purple. I have an issue called Reynod's Syndrome, which basically means my capillaries are really tiny, which can make blood circulation difficult, particularly in colder weather. If my body didn't react to cold weather in that way, I'd definitely check it out.

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