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toffeegyrl wrote in fatshionista
 Um, so I've decided I want to try brazillian waxing. But for various reasons, I'm pretty scared about trying it. I don't want to go and be humiliated if the waxing lady mentions something about the darker skin color where my thighs touch or my hair texture or something, or worse, is wondering why I bother. I have a bit of a tummy apron and I'm wondering if it's even possible for me to be waxed, given the skin issues and all that? 
So, i guess my questions are as follows: 
  1. how does one go about finding a fat-friendly waxer/aesthecian? (previous experience with underarm waxer was not pleasant -- I think she was grossed out by me) I don't want to be a burden/problem for the aesthecian any more than I want to be embarassed by her. 
  2. Is there a polite way to ask when calling/inquiring if the aesthecian has experience working with plus size women?
  3. if I am unable to find one, is it possible to do at-home waxing? there is the issue of not being able to see everything, and having areas touch that wouldn't necessarily do so on a thin person. 
Basically, there's a salon I like for manis/pedis near my house, but it's right next to a gym and everyone that works there is thin and I've pretty much worked myself into a panic about even asking them if they have experience working with someone who isn't thin. The only other salon I've ever had experience with is very shi-shi and I just know the girls there would be mean. 



 
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Thanks for posting this. It's something I've wondered about recently, but I'm also too nervous to go anywhere...so far, I've just stuck with shaving.

I've been wondering about this for years. I kind of always figured that waxing wasn't for me because of these same issues, but damned if I'm not tired of shaving.

I get brazillians and I would say DO NOT try one yourself. In regard to tummy issues, the main thing is if you can pull your skin taut(ish) it hurts less. You can do it yourself. Trimming the hair quite short wiht nail scissors also lessens the pain.

Ugh. In these instances I almost want to get a buddy to help me. I have a hard time waxing myself as I can't get the right leverage/angles and I have a hard time inflicted pain on myself. So I just stay hairy. ;)

Plus I'm finding out that lots of aesthecians..can be less than professional. My good friend, who worked as a spa/salon receptionist at a high profile hotel for years, had one such experience her first time getting a brazilllian. I'm bad at guessing sizes, but I'd say she's somewhere between 4-8. When she went the first time for a brazillian, the aesthecian showed some hesitation/made a face. She said something to the affect that she "preferred to do only bikini waxes" and my friend replied, "well, will you do it or will you get someone who will?" I guess that pretty jolted her because she ended up doing it...but not very well. Like, she left some hair. And this woman came recomended from within the spa world!

Good luck! Please share any advice you get outside of this comm!

I've been kind of thinking about this myself so I researched it. First, I didn't really understand all that was involved with a brazilian wax. One website I found included the detail that the waxer asked her to hold her clit to the side and also it seems getting your ass crack waxed is included? This requires you on all fours spreading your ass cheeks apart. Also, you are having to pull and lift things to get the skin tight anyway regardless of your size. I have never had this done so this is all hearsay but it makes sense to me. I read that home waxing is not so easy. I guess it depends on your shape and size. I don't think I could figure it out, personally.

So what I am saying is that it seems like these ladies (or men?) have probably seen it all and that you should just call a salon you like or are interested in and explain that you want to schedule a brazilian but you're fat and you want someone who will not feel uncomfortable or make you feel uncomfortable because of your size. And if they can't accommodate you there, could they suggest some place that would be able to?

You should write about the experience if you decide to go through with it! It would be helpful for me, at least.

I just found this FAQ page from a salon in Florida. It's just specific to this one salon but they say it's a little harder to do but "being overweight is no excuse to not get a brazilian!"
http://www.bypia.com/1_faq.asp?Action=Q&ID=97

Also, this: http://www.brazilianwaxinfo.com/faqs/#WhatGetsCovered

2. If I was calling and had that concern I would just say "Listen...Im a bit of a bigger girl and I was just wondering blah blah blah"

3. At home waxing anything is a mess

3. At home waxing anything is a mess

Unless you use Nad's strips! They worked really well for my chin/facial hair. :) No mess, either. :)

I must say kudos for posting about this topic. It's brilliant and something that I've also been wondering about over the years but had never taken the initiative to inquire further about. I too had the same problem that you had previously with your underarm waxer. So much so that it put me off to waxing anything other than my eyebrows at the salon.

I can't say that I have anything constructive to offer, other than echoing the above statements in simply asking around for someone who is plus-size friendly. I look forward to reading everyone's responses.

Haven't we discussed this before? I'm sure I've posted about it... anyway, I've gotten more than a few brazilians in my day and honestly never had a problem with feeling insecure or whatever on the table. I got waxed when I was 37 weeks pregnant, heh, and I was PLENTY huge then! I'd just ring around and ask them, don't be shy about it. In my experience, they deal with all sizes and shapes of bodies.

ETA: yep, we have! http://community.livejournal.com/fatshionista/2863844.html , http://community.livejournal.com/fatshionista/1099622.html

Edited at 2009-04-14 06:14 am (UTC)

You must be PSYCHIC!!! I was JUST THINKING LAST NIGHT that I might make my first post about this VERY THING!

Thank you for getting to it first! *clicks on track this*

I hadn't really thought about my size as an issue when I first went for a brazilian (I'm about a us 18), though I did worry about the fact that I have some acanthosis nigricans between my thighs potentially grossing the waxer out. It was all for naught though! None of the waxers I've been to have ever made any comments about it. The first time I go to a new spa though/ change estheticians, they generally make small talk about how they've seen EVERYTHING and how vaginas/ that general region all blur together for them. I'd imagine it's rather like being a gyno-- almost nothing that you see will surprise you. If you are uncomfortable, I'd call up a spa in the area that looks good and ask if the waxer has experience with plus sized/ fat/ word of your choice clients.

I have a bit of a tummy too. The waxer will just ask you to stretch the skin around your vulva taut, and if you sort of um, press your palm up against your belly while pulling the skin taut, it's totally a non issue. Everyone has to contort/ make adjustments to their bodies when they get waxes-- thin women included.

A couple of unsolicited recommendations for your first wax-- take two panadol an hour before it and trim your hair so that it's about 1.5 cm long (it'll hurt less to have it ripped out!!).

I've never had a brazillian done but I've had nothing but good waxing experiences at Gene Juarez.

On a side note, a friend of a friend recently tried giving herself a brazillian at home. It hurt so bad, she couldn't finish and actually left one of the strips on until it fell off on its own. *facepalm*

I do my own brazilians with sugar waxing. It works for me and I basically do most of it by feel but often pull out the mirror. Just the other day my bf helped and it was smoother than ever, plus I've finally figured out the best method for me. Do it yourself, have a friend help and you won't have to deal with the crap in the salons, plus it costs next to nothing (3 cups of sugar, 2 cups of water and some lemon juice, which lasts for months). If you are interested I can send you the recipe and advice I have been using. I had never been waxed until I tried this on myself and am really happy with it. Of course, I have nothing to compare it to but I know I don't want hot wax on my vulva and also that I don't want to pay that much money to be that uncomfortable with a stranger.

i would love that recipe and advice if its up for grabs lol

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Aw, I love my waxer... but I am not the fattest fatshionista so I can only see where you are coming from without having experienced the worry in the same way.

I found that my waxer did not care about my flabby thighs and butt, she is a business woman and she waxes to support her son's drama school tuition so she is in out and done and really funny to boot. You have to hold your ass cheeck apart to get the butt done, and you have to move around a little, but she accommodates my needs so I imagine a GOOD waxer would do the same for you.

IDK she and I chitchat about her annoying daily commute to Surrey and whatnot and have a grand old time. It actually makes me feel more confident because it's a completely non sexual way of basically being (fat and) (half-)naked but in a body-conscious situation (because obviously you are there getting your pubes pulled out, lol).

Like others, I have had several brazilians, and have never had a problem. If you are comfortable with the salon you go to for mani/pedis, then I wouldn't panic. They can see that you are fat...I would just casually mention that you are thinking about getting one, but you are nervous (you don't have to say why). They will probably try to convince you that it is the best thing ever, and you should schedule one right! now! If they don't then find a different salon.

Also, take a couple of ibuprofen before you go :)

Oh, for reference, I am somewhere between 220 and 240, with a big hanging belly roll, so definitely not an in-betweenie :)

ive gotten a brazillian wax before and my fat was not a problem at all. the lady might ask you to hold up your fat so she get get the wax in there. also, im SURE the waxer has seen much fatter and much 'worse,' so dont worry!

also, UGH DOES IT HURT!!! but im happy i did it; i will never do it again though :X. so much pain for so much money!!!

I've gotten it done a bunch of times without a problem. If you go to the cheapie places in the back of nail salons (or places of that ilk), it goes badly-- and I've heard the same from skinny people. Go someplace nicer. I have suggestions in the Chicago area but, if you're elsewhere, check out reviews on places like Yelp. If they focus on waxing, they're going to do better. Plus, the higher the volume of waxing they do as a business, they tend to have more experience and do better.

As for the belly apron, don't worry about it. I have one too and, occasionally, they'll ask me to hold it but, for the most part, it is no big deal. I once asked if the place I went to go lots of fat people and she said that she gets a huge spectrum.

Finally, as a side note, make sure you care for the region well afterwards. They'll tell you to exfoliate and probably try to sell you some cream or tonic but, whatever you do, make sure you take care of it. The belly apron and more skin contact that you have when your fat can make the rashes far worse. I personally stick to my biggest, ugliest cotton boy shorts for a day or two afterwards. A clear, non-moisturizing shower gel and a shower poof is also perfect for care.

Good luck!

Hello :)
I realize you posted this comment a while back, but I was wondering where you suggested going in Chicago?
I just moved here AND have never gotten waxed, so I'm a bit nervous to just go out on my own and try to find a place to go!

I've had a bikini (not Brazilian) wax. I can't see any reason why being plus-sized would be a problem. The aesthetician will have to ask you to contort or hold your body in a certain way, but he/she has to ask that of all clients.

Aestheticians who are comfortable and professional about waxing someone's labial and anal area are unlikely to be unprofessional about your size, and I'd be shocked if you're the first fat girl your aesthetician has waxed. I doubt an aesthetician would risk losing your business by having a rude attitude. Having said that, I understand why you're nervous and I'd just say straight out when you make the appointment that you'd like to schedule an appointment with an aesthetician who is comfortable working with plus-sized women.

I would not under any circumstances try an at-home Brazilian.

Oh, and, "The only other salon I've ever had experience with is very shi-shi and I just know the girls there would be mean."

I've been to plenty of fancy salons and never once had a rude comment. $75 is $75 whether the client is fat or thin.

i'm in the seattle area and i normally get waxed at the Inspa in U-Village. I think it depends more on the technician than the place itself in terms of being fat friendly. my favorite gal there is Margie. she's awesome. very friendly and so quick and efficient. i've never tried a brazilian but i love a regular bikini wax because shaving down there is a pain and it hurts. once you get used to waxing, it's so much easier.


Listen i went though this myself a few months back. I finally realized that i'm sick of treating myself like a 2nd class citizen cus im fat. I decided to go to the place that i already go to get my nails done, since i know the women there and already am comfortable with them. I did it and it was no big deal at all! i'm not sure how much of a "tummy apron" you have but if its not to large i don't see the problem, during the waxing you will need to help spread your self apart so don't be embarrassed to hold your tummy up! the end results are worth it!!hope this helps :P

Ya, know I never thought of my fat being a problem when I thought about getting a brazilian. When I had to get naked for my spa treatment I didn't have any self image problems. Maybe I'm spoiled-I dunno there are many people who are larger than me in the Bronx going to get their beauty on. Now, I wanna go for one just to see if I get treated funny....well, that and some smoothness.

Please don't let dumb people ruin something for you!

I can't even handle waxing my *eyebrows*....

I don't actually think about it when I go to get mine done - I just make sure I shower right before hand, like for a pap smear. The workers at my salon are mostly on the thin side, but some are larger. Maybe if you look for a salon with some larger workers you might feel more comfortable? Honestly, though, once the pain starts you will forget all about what your tummy is looking like. ;)

My waxers all joke that the only concern they have is avoiding a kick in the head - it actually happened to one of the ladies working there once, when a client couldn't handle the pain! So yeah - I take ibuprofen beforehand and sometimes a large glass of wine too! And try to avoid going around the time your period is due, if you're more susceptible to pain at those times.

Also, some salons give you some throwaway thin cotton panties to wear for modesty, which they will push aside as necessary when they wax the area. You might like to ask about that if you call up beforehand - the size they gave me on my first go was large enough to cover my tummy. That might help you feel more comfortable too.

I would suggest against an at-home brazilian for your first go at least, for a number of reasons - pain, mess, difficulty and sheer annoyance and time factors. But then I am so lazy about waxing that the can't-be-bothered side of me far outweighs any body/nudity issues!

I'm not going to lie to you - it can be very awkward being fat and getting a bikini wax. It hasn't kept me from getting Brazilian waxes done for years and years though. I just don't want to tell you it's fine and no big deal and then you become completely freaked out. Please don't try it yourself - I think it would be extraordinarily difficult. When you get a Brazilian, it's a risk if the woman won't be good but you should know that everyone I have ever gone to has been professional and lovely. They see ALL kinds of people and I always have told myself that there is no way I'm the worst case (whether it be fat, hair, cleanliness, etc). I have always just gone in there confident, keeping in mind that I am a paying customer and I deserve to be treated well. I have never had anyone say anything even remotely rude of hurtful about my fat. However, be prepared that you very well may be asked to hold your tummy up to make the skin tight for an easier wax. I also became accustomed to adjusting myself to give the best angle when she is doing in between my legs so that my thighs are in the way. Look - it takes some adjusting to but you can do it! It's SOOO much better than shaving.

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